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Simmer Until Done


Recognizing where you are is the first step.

Allowing yourself to be where you are is the 2nd step.

Taking the time you need to find your happy place again is the next step…. at least that is what I’ve found my process to be.

And then reframe all negative thinking as much as possible.

Simmer until done.

This is the recipe I found myself following over and again that which proved successful.

Give it a try and let me know in the comments below how it worked (or didn’t) for you.

To your success,



Your Story Must Go

let-story-goThe other day I posted the image you see at the left on my Courageous Women Publications Facebook page.

“before you tell your story, you must first let your story go….”

I had been asked to “talk more about what ‘letting your story go’ looks like,” therefore, below is my response.

It’s been nearly six years since my story happened—one of many. And I thought I was ready to share it and the lessons taught. But when first asked all those years ago to talk about the details and why I felt so strongly in relating my story, I stumbled with the words.

Because of my inability to steadfastly voice my thoughts, feelings, and new-found wisdom, I didn’t come across very convincingly with what I was attempting to convey to the other person who asked the question.

Another time, and during a speaker’s training, I was telling a different story—the one where I had just lost my mother-in-law from a brain hemorrhage. While on stage in the midst of the story, one of the training leaders yelled for me to stop. His words burned, “Who is gonna wanna listen to that?”

Well, of course, I was hurt and devastated; however, I was not deterred. I politely and gracefully received his advice and left the stage.

With the wounds freshly in place, I remember thinking to myself, I will not let this guy who doesn’t know me take away my story—it’s a good story!

As the training progressed, however, the realization set in that that story wasn’t the important one to tell. The better story was the one where after twenty years of loyalty, with the same company, I had been released due to a merger acquisition.

And now, back to the beginning of this post and the inability to tell my story. I not only had trouble relaying the events, but when the time came to share the wisdom gained since, I still couldn’t audibly and intelligently share those pearls.

I was still too close and attached to what transpired. I was still in pain. I was still angry—although I said I really was not. When asked by marketing and business coaches why I wanted to start a business about helping those in transition and what that looked like, I got defensive.

Can’t you see how important it is in helping someone who just lost their job? Don’t you understand that there is a great service I can bring to those who now hurt as I had?

“Let go of your story.”

I don’t know how many times I heard this throughout other trainings I’ve had. But I just couldn’t let the story go; it was a part of me; it shaped who I am today; I do what I do because of that story!

Training is good to receive; however, when conveying a message such as why you should not hold onto your story, especially while building a business around it, is imperative for the student to understand one piece that will change everything.

I hadn’t heard that lesson, or completely missed it if it was presented at all.

Here’s what must be let go: the closeness of the events that ripped your heart out.

Once I distanced myself from feeling the emotional ties that which bound me to the situation, I was better able to discuss the reasons why I wanted to help women succeed after losing a job, or their kids went on to college, or they simply desired a change.

Once I processed the pain, the anger, the loss experienced due to the event, I could stand back and take a really good look—not unlike an out-of-body experience—and see where I needed to go with the business, how to make it all come together.

Do the emotions still arise and take me back to that time? Of course; and it’s expected, and also welcomed. The time remains fresh enough so I can create programs for my clientele to continually help them process their emotions and pain. I am now able to tell my story because I’ve let the pain of the story go.

Letting go takes time and work; it is not an overnight or two- or three-day fix. But if you can go deep within and fully process the hurt, anger, and pain, your story becomes a powerful vehicle to take those you were meant to serve on a journey to heal their wounds.

It’s all about the release and getting free of the chains that bind us.

Before you tell your story, let your story go.

If the words struck a nerve, I’d love to hear how in the comments below. If you feel others may benefit from this post, please share via the social media buttons below.

To your success,



Courageous Women Publications

Another year, another vision. The other day I asked why, as I got more clear in my business plan and added more detail, the vision was growing like a snowball rolling down the hill.

Anyone who—and it may be you, too—has been in this same situation knows this scenario is exactly what happens when you get clear on what you want and love to do.

Now, my Communication Solution page has been up for nearly the entire year of 2014; yet, it was under my personal name. As more collaborators (you may call them clients) came to me, the more the idea came forward of actually naming the writing and publishing piece of my business.

Okay. No big deal. Right? At some point I would take time to think about a name.

But always seemed to put the entitlement on the back burner. Until one day in the shower…..

Yep. You guessed it! It was like a lightning bolt had shot through my body! Good thing I hadn’t fully soaped up yet, or I would have been on the shower floor!

The name given to house this part of my business makes perfect sense. The collaborators (all women thus far) who I’ve helped publish, no matter the task, have all been sent with a message of their own to share through the written word—and that doesn’t come without a bit of courage behind it (she said sarcastically)!

I will also share with you there has been a gentleman that approached me to publish his book, but he didn’t pan out. Sad to say. But that doesn’t mean another one won’t come along and allow me to help him spread his wisdom through the written word!

As I shared the banner design, I had been asked why the big letter “C”? It’s the beginning of the word “courage” and it’s bigger and bolder than the rest just for that very reason.

The background is like parchment, where valuable written words are stored.

The globe signifies all are welcomed. The line under “Women” may seem to be an underline, but it is actually the latitudinal line of the equator on the globe, encompassing all women from around the world.

Some say the banner gives them a traditional old-world feel; yet, also emits and evokes strength and hope of the future.

“Open up to the world, and the world opens up to you.”

It most certainly does. Ahhhhhh.

The website is not quite ready, but please visit the Facebook Page and, while you’re there, I’d love it if you’d “Like” it.

It’s going to be a great and busy time this coming year. This business component will not just be about launching new authors, but will also be about self-discovery, self-empowerment, and so much more!

I am thrilled, honored, and humbled to be on this journey, and to be the one called upon to deliver inspiration and encouragement throughout this wonderful world in which we live.

To your success,


Happy Independence Day!



This is Book Three in My Life Adventures Series. Isn’t it exciting?

When I wrote my first book, “fiftysomething: The Unknown, Dreams, and Paths,” I had no idea what my life adventures would be or how many books I’d write about them, but that is the beauty and power of the written word and getting it out there into the world!!


This particular book was written two years ago. I offered it as a free PDF download to anyone who registered for it. Nearly 100 people did. Now, that may not seem like many to you, but almost 100 people have read it—and that means the world to me!

Before the end of last year, a friend and I decided to make a list of SMART goals for 2014. You may have heard of these: Specific; Measurable; Attainable; Realistic; and Timely. We would be accountable to each other and share our progress each week.

Well, as our individual businesses began to grow, the weekly accountability went out the window; however, we do check in at least every two weeks — seems we have more successes to report.

Also, as my business began to grow, I put off a personal goal — getting this book published on Kindle. I knew in the back of my mind that May 31 had been the deadline; and although I worked on getting the book Kindle-ready, I came upon a technical block to that final step — where I wanted the book to open to, or the “start” of it, would not set correctly.

Yesterday, June 1 I was bound and determined to figure out that technical difficulty. And I did!

So, even though I am two days late in achieving my goal of getting this book on Amazon’s Kindle,


Without writing The Acceptance Factor, I don’t think I could have. Why? Because I had to accept the fact that I was behind schedule, hadn’t achieved my goal on time, and was a disappointment to myself! Writing and following my own process proves that it works!

  1. Set a goal.
  2. Establish the SMART details.
  3. Find an accountability partner.
  4. Accept where you are.
  5. Keep going.
  6. Celebrate your accomplishment — even if you missed your deadline.

The Acceptance Factor is finding that serenity within and beyond to achieve any goal or dream you may have. It’s releasing what once was and had been so you can find true joy and happiness.

Don’t take my word for it. Go to Amazon right now and get your copy — and your free gift. And when you’re done reading the book, I’d be honored to have you submit a review on Amazon.

Thank you so much!

To your writing success,


Lake Michigan 02

Today’s daily thought and meditation centers around the power within.

“My power and strength are within.”

When I registered for this meditation series a month ago, who knew that it would coincide and be synchonistic with the #FindingPowerWithin tele-series! I am reminded over and again how powerful the Universe is and just how connected we all are to it and to each other.

My hope is for you to know all you need, all that you require to live, love, and have joy and prosperity in your life is within YOU. Mentors can teach you how to reach the space where it lives, yet simply resting and getting quiet to allow the goodness to enter is the beginning of a beautiful and glorious relationship!

As you go through today, sit for a moment with your eyes closed — one minute or less will be plenty of time. When the voices come to you, silently and politely tell them you’re busy and will get back to them soon.

Peace, joy, love, and happiness to you, my friend.

To your empowerment,


Sunrise2013-1If you’ve not followed or participated in a Chopra 21-day meditation series, a centering thought is shared each day. Today’s thought is aligned with an upcoming program, FindingPowerWithin, that begins April 22.


“My security and peace are within.”

I’ve had my own quote I wrote a few years ago go viral on Twitter.

“Faith is found within, not from others. But in order to receive that faith, you must first find it in yourself.”

But just as it is with faith, it is with peace, trust, and love.

Over the next 20 days I will share the inspiration I receive from these meditations, as I feel it is important to let readers like you to know they are not alone in their thoughts and feelings.

It is also important to share the power of going within, to find the strength and courage that has been with you along.

I welcome your thoughts as we move through this journey together.

To your empowerment,



I’m serious… what would it look like? How might you feel?

Imagine an hour or even an entire day without saying one negative thing about any one person or any one situation—could you do it? Would you try?

Back in the 1990s I was faced with being in a corporate environment that was considered hostile due to a sexual harassment lawsuit pending. Talk about negativity and complaining! The two people involved were a good male friend and my nemesis, a female coworker.

I can’t go into the details of the case, but I can share with you that both parties were found at fault for creating a situation that clearly and quickly got out of hand.

This was a time when I had been learning more about myself, how to step back and be objective, and what I needed to do to become happy in the workplace. There were a few reasons why I wanted to travel this path.

Be happy both at home and at work. I loved being home with my husband and kids. I loved being with a few of my coworkers, but still wasn’t getting along with still another few. Something needed to change for me to be content in all areas of my life. It was while walking this path that I discovered I could not change how others perceived me—I could change in how I perceived them! Many find this little gem early in life; I, however, was to be a little older. Better late than never, they say!

Be a positive example and influence. Being in the union environment, I was acutely aware of stewards who did not seem to be representing their members judiciously; and I wanted to change that. But as I learned about how to be happy, I learned that living by example is the best influence anyone could have. I ran for my classification’s representative and won!

Succeed and exceed. If I rose above the clamor and clatter I just knew that I would excel in everything I wanted to experience and attempt. Paying attention to only what I was doing, how I performed my work to the best of my ability, being kind to everyone—including my nemesis—then I would go far; and indeed, I did. During those years in the corporate union environment, I became vice-president of our association and participated in company negotiations in the CEO’s boardroom, and was known for my quiet yet firm leadership.

With large aspirations, you must begin with small steps; and those steps begin with and live inside you.

What do you want to achieve in the short term? In the long term? Imagine the possibility of getting everything you dream of without one iota of whine.

Experts say that to change a habit—or to acquire one—you must be in continuous flow for twenty-one days. However, this expert says begin one moment at a time, then graduate slowly up to a day, then two, and work your way up to the three weeks. If you go full tilt on the habit-changing designated timeframe you may be setting yourself up for failure. For the one time you catch yourself not following the rules you set down, you may become so despondent that you do not wish to continue in this folly.

But here’s a fantastic bit of advice: you can start all over again as soon as you realize you messed up. Use no judgment, and simply begin anew right here, right now.

Are you ready to begin a life of no complaining? Try it on for size. I’d love to hear the results you experience.

To your success,


“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”

~Dale Carnegie

New brain cells were created today!


Well, the site is finally coming together.

What do you think of the design? I’m not certain of the pink flowery spinners for the date holder; however, I really like everything else about it!

Today was a really productive day for me… I attribute that along with yesterday’s productivity success by being back in routine. Waking early, dressing and going for a walk, meditation upon return, only perusing email, and then settling in to write, create, or develop the most important item(s) for the day.

I declared to add at least one component daily to the website for this week and today I completed three: the opt-in form, the file for viewing or download, and this post. Pretty. Darn. Cool.

Even though I’m technically brilliant (really close to it anyway—ahem), new programs are a fun challenge to me. WordPress will be exceptionally so; however, if I can learn to navigate the behind-the-scenes of Linux operating system, I can conquer blogging programs.

Tomorrow will be another productive day: my stove will get fixed so I can cook and bake again!

I still have plug-ins to upload for commentators, so perhaps those will get activated tomorrow, too.

What new things are you trying? Did you know that when you learn new things that new brain cells are created? Pretty amazing stuff all around us.

To your success,

Not me!

Being in the creative mode stirs the adrenalin! I can hardly do my daily meditation I’m so antsy!

But alas, my dear friend. It is important to take time to bring that quiet reflection into your day. The vision you have for your life needs that daily nourishment.

So, if you have yet to get still to drink in the essence of your dreams today, do it right here, right now.

Until next time,