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Your Story Must Go

let-story-goThe other day I posted the image you see at the left on my Courageous Women Publications Facebook page.

“before you tell your story, you must first let your story go….”

I had been asked to “talk more about what ‘letting your story go’ looks like,” therefore, below is my response.

It’s been nearly six years since my story happened—one of many. And I thought I was ready to share it and the lessons taught. But when first asked all those years ago to talk about the details and why I felt so strongly in relating my story, I stumbled with the words.

Because of my inability to steadfastly voice my thoughts, feelings, and new-found wisdom, I didn’t come across very convincingly with what I was attempting to convey to the other person who asked the question.

Another time, and during a speaker’s training, I was telling a different story—the one where I had just lost my mother-in-law from a brain hemorrhage. While on stage in the midst of the story, one of the training leaders yelled for me to stop. His words burned, “Who is gonna wanna listen to that?”

Well, of course, I was hurt and devastated; however, I was not deterred. I politely and gracefully received his advice and left the stage.

With the wounds freshly in place, I remember thinking to myself, I will not let this guy who doesn’t know me take away my story—it’s a good story!

As the training progressed, however, the realization set in that that story wasn’t the important one to tell. The better story was the one where after twenty years of loyalty, with the same company, I had been released due to a merger acquisition.

And now, back to the beginning of this post and the inability to tell my story. I not only had trouble relaying the events, but when the time came to share the wisdom gained since, I still couldn’t audibly and intelligently share those pearls.

I was still too close and attached to what transpired. I was still in pain. I was still angry—although I said I really was not. When asked by marketing and business coaches why I wanted to start a business about helping those in transition and what that looked like, I got defensive.

Can’t you see how important it is in helping someone who just lost their job? Don’t you understand that there is a great service I can bring to those who now hurt as I had?

“Let go of your story.”

I don’t know how many times I heard this throughout other trainings I’ve had. But I just couldn’t let the story go; it was a part of me; it shaped who I am today; I do what I do because of that story!

Training is good to receive; however, when conveying a message such as why you should not hold onto your story, especially while building a business around it, is imperative for the student to understand one piece that will change everything.

I hadn’t heard that lesson, or completely missed it if it was presented at all.

Here’s what must be let go: the closeness of the events that ripped your heart out.

Once I distanced myself from feeling the emotional ties that which bound me to the situation, I was better able to discuss the reasons why I wanted to help women succeed after losing a job, or their kids went on to college, or they simply desired a change.

Once I processed the pain, the anger, the loss experienced due to the event, I could stand back and take a really good look—not unlike an out-of-body experience—and see where I needed to go with the business, how to make it all come together.

Do the emotions still arise and take me back to that time? Of course; and it’s expected, and also welcomed. The time remains fresh enough so I can create programs for my clientele to continually help them process their emotions and pain. I am now able to tell my story because I’ve let the pain of the story go.

Letting go takes time and work; it is not an overnight or two- or three-day fix. But if you can go deep within and fully process the hurt, anger, and pain, your story becomes a powerful vehicle to take those you were meant to serve on a journey to heal their wounds.

It’s all about the release and getting free of the chains that bind us.

Before you tell your story, let your story go.

If the words struck a nerve, I’d love to hear how in the comments below. If you feel others may benefit from this post, please share via the social media buttons below.

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Rethink being grounded!

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As an entrepreneur or business owner, what have you accomplished? Meaning, how successful have you been launching a product or service? Have you made hundreds of dollars? Thousands? You’re on track for the coveted 7-figure business?

If you’re not making the money you want, perhaps you need to break free from your current model and/or partners. They may be the very thing that is holding you back!

If you were on your own, what would you do? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

To your success,

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A day of epiphany 2014

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Today is a religious day of celebration, The Epiphany, when the Three Wise Men visit the Baby Jesus.

For me on this date in history, it has been marked with more personal revelations. Perhaps this has been by divine design?

This morning I awoke around 2AM and, knowing I would not go back to immediate slumber, began writing in my journal.

“People who need people are the luckiest people in the world…”

You may be familiar with the tune sung by Barbra Streisand.

The realization that settled into my bones was one of being OK in needing others to help me succeed during my endeavors, no matter what they may be at the time. A few weeks ago, however, I remarked that I wasn’t really looking for a partnership where my business was concerned; I must do this on my own.

And then this thought struck me, one that I’ve said to many others along my growth path these past years: Just because you are in business for yourself, doesn’t mean you have to be in business by yourself.

People who have a team of people helping them to be successful are the luckiest people in the world!

This year my plan includes rebuilding the team that will assist in manifesting my dream of being a highly and well paid writer, so that I will achieve a goal of financial abundance, of which is the theme I chose for 2014. I will also become a practitioner of what I preach and mentor my clients to do: obtain, maintain, and retain the support necessary to receive what you seek!

Rome wasn’t built in day and neither was the Big U, what I call the Universe. It is my belief, as well, that those behind constructing either of those masses did not do it alone.

The message I have for you today, writer, mentor, coach, speaker, whoever you are or whatever you do, is to go find those who will build your empire, your Big U, so you too can be filled with financial abundance this year and every year to come!
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Please share below.

To your success,
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