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Your Story Must Go

let-story-goThe other day I posted the image you see at the left on my Courageous Women Publications Facebook page.

“before you tell your story, you must first let your story go….”

I had been asked to “talk more about what ‘letting your story go’ looks like,” therefore, below is my response.

It’s been nearly six years since my story happened—one of many. And I thought I was ready to share it and the lessons taught. But when first asked all those years ago to talk about the details and why I felt so strongly in relating my story, I stumbled with the words.

Because of my inability to steadfastly voice my thoughts, feelings, and new-found wisdom, I didn’t come across very convincingly with what I was attempting to convey to the other person who asked the question.

Another time, and during a speaker’s training, I was telling a different story—the one where I had just lost my mother-in-law from a brain hemorrhage. While on stage in the midst of the story, one of the training leaders yelled for me to stop. His words burned, “Who is gonna wanna listen to that?”

Well, of course, I was hurt and devastated; however, I was not deterred. I politely and gracefully received his advice and left the stage.

With the wounds freshly in place, I remember thinking to myself, I will not let this guy who doesn’t know me take away my story—it’s a good story!

As the training progressed, however, the realization set in that that story wasn’t the important one to tell. The better story was the one where after twenty years of loyalty, with the same company, I had been released due to a merger acquisition.

And now, back to the beginning of this post and the inability to tell my story. I not only had trouble relaying the events, but when the time came to share the wisdom gained since, I still couldn’t audibly and intelligently share those pearls.

I was still too close and attached to what transpired. I was still in pain. I was still angry—although I said I really was not. When asked by marketing and business coaches why I wanted to start a business about helping those in transition and what that looked like, I got defensive.

Can’t you see how important it is in helping someone who just lost their job? Don’t you understand that there is a great service I can bring to those who now hurt as I had?

“Let go of your story.”

I don’t know how many times I heard this throughout other trainings I’ve had. But I just couldn’t let the story go; it was a part of me; it shaped who I am today; I do what I do because of that story!

Training is good to receive; however, when conveying a message such as why you should not hold onto your story, especially while building a business around it, is imperative for the student to understand one piece that will change everything.

I hadn’t heard that lesson, or completely missed it if it was presented at all.

Here’s what must be let go: the closeness of the events that ripped your heart out.

Once I distanced myself from feeling the emotional ties that which bound me to the situation, I was better able to discuss the reasons why I wanted to help women succeed after losing a job, or their kids went on to college, or they simply desired a change.

Once I processed the pain, the anger, the loss experienced due to the event, I could stand back and take a really good look—not unlike an out-of-body experience—and see where I needed to go with the business, how to make it all come together.

Do the emotions still arise and take me back to that time? Of course; and it’s expected, and also welcomed. The time remains fresh enough so I can create programs for my clientele to continually help them process their emotions and pain. I am now able to tell my story because I’ve let the pain of the story go.

Letting go takes time and work; it is not an overnight or two- or three-day fix. But if you can go deep within and fully process the hurt, anger, and pain, your story becomes a powerful vehicle to take those you were meant to serve on a journey to heal their wounds.

It’s all about the release and getting free of the chains that bind us.

Before you tell your story, let your story go.

If the words struck a nerve, I’d love to hear how in the comments below. If you feel others may benefit from this post, please share via the social media buttons below.

To your success,

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Rethink being grounded!

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As an entrepreneur or business owner, what have you accomplished? Meaning, how successful have you been launching a product or service? Have you made hundreds of dollars? Thousands? You’re on track for the coveted 7-figure business?

If you’re not making the money you want, perhaps you need to break free from your current model and/or partners. They may be the very thing that is holding you back!

If you were on your own, what would you do? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

To your success,

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Today’s daily thought and meditation centers around the power within.

“My power and strength are within.”

When I registered for this meditation series a month ago, who knew that it would coincide and be synchonistic with the #FindingPowerWithin tele-series! I am reminded over and again how powerful the Universe is and just how connected we all are to it and to each other.

My hope is for you to know all you need, all that you require to live, love, and have joy and prosperity in your life is within YOU. Mentors can teach you how to reach the space where it lives, yet simply resting and getting quiet to allow the goodness to enter is the beginning of a beautiful and glorious relationship!

As you go through today, sit for a moment with your eyes closed — one minute or less will be plenty of time. When the voices come to you, silently and politely tell them you’re busy and will get back to them soon.

Peace, joy, love, and happiness to you, my friend.

To your empowerment,

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Today’s daily thought and meditation centers around happiness.

“I am the source of unlimited happiness.”

And I sure am! Are you?

The clouds keep hiding the sun today; however, they do not totally block out the warm rays. It is this way with happiness. Being happy has nothing to do with the outside world, but has everything to do with you on the inside.

You see, happiness is a state of existence. You can choose to be happy at the beginning, because that is a very good step to get you out of any hole you dug yourself into. Or you can simply be happy because that is who you are, and your circumstances does not beget your state of mind.

While dealing with my corporate nemesis, I chose to be happy regardless of her efforts to make me otherwise. And it worked! Not so much due to the fact that it irritated her I still could be in a great mood, but because I could be in a great mood!!

When you go into your Self, look into your Soul, and seek the truth, you will always find a bit of happiness waiting for you. Why? Because you don’t need to go looking for it any place else. It’s right there, in you.

What do you think about where happiness comes from?

I’d love to hear!

To your writing success,

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A day of epiphany 2014

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Today is a religious day of celebration, The Epiphany, when the Three Wise Men visit the Baby Jesus.

For me on this date in history, it has been marked with more personal revelations. Perhaps this has been by divine design?

This morning I awoke around 2AM and, knowing I would not go back to immediate slumber, began writing in my journal.

“People who need people are the luckiest people in the world…”

You may be familiar with the tune sung by Barbra Streisand.

The realization that settled into my bones was one of being OK in needing others to help me succeed during my endeavors, no matter what they may be at the time. A few weeks ago, however, I remarked that I wasn’t really looking for a partnership where my business was concerned; I must do this on my own.

And then this thought struck me, one that I’ve said to many others along my growth path these past years: Just because you are in business for yourself, doesn’t mean you have to be in business by yourself.

People who have a team of people helping them to be successful are the luckiest people in the world!

This year my plan includes rebuilding the team that will assist in manifesting my dream of being a highly and well paid writer, so that I will achieve a goal of financial abundance, of which is the theme I chose for 2014. I will also become a practitioner of what I preach and mentor my clients to do: obtain, maintain, and retain the support necessary to receive what you seek!

Rome wasn’t built in day and neither was the Big U, what I call the Universe. It is my belief, as well, that those behind constructing either of those masses did not do it alone.

The message I have for you today, writer, mentor, coach, speaker, whoever you are or whatever you do, is to go find those who will build your empire, your Big U, so you too can be filled with financial abundance this year and every year to come!
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Please share below.

To your success,
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I’m serious… what would it look like? How might you feel?

Imagine an hour or even an entire day without saying one negative thing about any one person or any one situation—could you do it? Would you try?

Back in the 1990s I was faced with being in a corporate environment that was considered hostile due to a sexual harassment lawsuit pending. Talk about negativity and complaining! The two people involved were a good male friend and my nemesis, a female coworker.

I can’t go into the details of the case, but I can share with you that both parties were found at fault for creating a situation that clearly and quickly got out of hand.

This was a time when I had been learning more about myself, how to step back and be objective, and what I needed to do to become happy in the workplace. There were a few reasons why I wanted to travel this path.

Be happy both at home and at work. I loved being home with my husband and kids. I loved being with a few of my coworkers, but still wasn’t getting along with still another few. Something needed to change for me to be content in all areas of my life. It was while walking this path that I discovered I could not change how others perceived me—I could change in how I perceived them! Many find this little gem early in life; I, however, was to be a little older. Better late than never, they say!

Be a positive example and influence. Being in the union environment, I was acutely aware of stewards who did not seem to be representing their members judiciously; and I wanted to change that. But as I learned about how to be happy, I learned that living by example is the best influence anyone could have. I ran for my classification’s representative and won!

Succeed and exceed. If I rose above the clamor and clatter I just knew that I would excel in everything I wanted to experience and attempt. Paying attention to only what I was doing, how I performed my work to the best of my ability, being kind to everyone—including my nemesis—then I would go far; and indeed, I did. During those years in the corporate union environment, I became vice-president of our association and participated in company negotiations in the CEO’s boardroom, and was known for my quiet yet firm leadership.

With large aspirations, you must begin with small steps; and those steps begin with and live inside you.

What do you want to achieve in the short term? In the long term? Imagine the possibility of getting everything you dream of without one iota of whine.

Experts say that to change a habit—or to acquire one—you must be in continuous flow for twenty-one days. However, this expert says begin one moment at a time, then graduate slowly up to a day, then two, and work your way up to the three weeks. If you go full tilt on the habit-changing designated timeframe you may be setting yourself up for failure. For the one time you catch yourself not following the rules you set down, you may become so despondent that you do not wish to continue in this folly.

But here’s a fantastic bit of advice: you can start all over again as soon as you realize you messed up. Use no judgment, and simply begin anew right here, right now.

Are you ready to begin a life of no complaining? Try it on for size. I’d love to hear the results you experience.

To your success,

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“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”

~Dale Carnegie

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