Archive for January, 2015

Simmer Until Done


Recognizing where you are is the first step.

Allowing yourself to be where you are is the 2nd step.

Taking the time you need to find your happy place again is the next step…. at least that is what I’ve found my process to be.

And then reframe all negative thinking as much as possible.

Simmer until done.

This is the recipe I found myself following over and again that which proved successful.

Give it a try and let me know in the comments below how it worked (or didn’t) for you.

To your success,



workshop-photoIt happened last week.

You may have heard that I launched a new division to my company. The idea was delivered in a true divine inspiration sort of way. I took all the right actions to move forward: purchased the URL, created the Facebook Fan Page, wrote a blog post to announce the arrival, and much more. The launch had been very successful.

What also happened last week was this: I was to give a speech for my local Toastmasters club. The project I’d chosen was from the Storytelling manual, “The Moral of the Story.”

I researched via Google stories on morals; you know, like the Hare and the Tortoise, in that you never want to take your opponent for granted because she may just beat you at your own game.

Finding a few stories that piqued my interest, I never heard of them before; so I’d have to learn the story fast–as it was only a few short hours before my speech! Eek!

You can’t do this! There’s no time left! What are you going to do? You can’t do this!

Yep. That was me. Hard to believe, right? Miss Positivity?

Well, I knew I had to pull it and me together. The voice inside changed.

You can do this! You can write books and posts in record time! You can write a 7-minute speech, for gosh-sakes!!

I then went back to the manual to read the objectives for the speech. It was possible to take a moral and create my own story. And so I did.

The speech was a success. I received laughs and chuckles. But when it came to the moral —– I forgot the words!!!

“It’s one thing to propose, it’s another to execute!”

Amen, Sister! Amen!

To your success,


Your Story Must Go

let-story-goThe other day I posted the image you see at the left on my Courageous Women Publications Facebook page.

“before you tell your story, you must first let your story go….”

I had been asked to “talk more about what ‘letting your story go’ looks like,” therefore, below is my response.

It’s been nearly six years since my story happened—one of many. And I thought I was ready to share it and the lessons taught. But when first asked all those years ago to talk about the details and why I felt so strongly in relating my story, I stumbled with the words.

Because of my inability to steadfastly voice my thoughts, feelings, and new-found wisdom, I didn’t come across very convincingly with what I was attempting to convey to the other person who asked the question.

Another time, and during a speaker’s training, I was telling a different story—the one where I had just lost my mother-in-law from a brain hemorrhage. While on stage in the midst of the story, one of the training leaders yelled for me to stop. His words burned, “Who is gonna wanna listen to that?”

Well, of course, I was hurt and devastated; however, I was not deterred. I politely and gracefully received his advice and left the stage.

With the wounds freshly in place, I remember thinking to myself, I will not let this guy who doesn’t know me take away my story—it’s a good story!

As the training progressed, however, the realization set in that that story wasn’t the important one to tell. The better story was the one where after twenty years of loyalty, with the same company, I had been released due to a merger acquisition.

And now, back to the beginning of this post and the inability to tell my story. I not only had trouble relaying the events, but when the time came to share the wisdom gained since, I still couldn’t audibly and intelligently share those pearls.

I was still too close and attached to what transpired. I was still in pain. I was still angry—although I said I really was not. When asked by marketing and business coaches why I wanted to start a business about helping those in transition and what that looked like, I got defensive.

Can’t you see how important it is in helping someone who just lost their job? Don’t you understand that there is a great service I can bring to those who now hurt as I had?

“Let go of your story.”

I don’t know how many times I heard this throughout other trainings I’ve had. But I just couldn’t let the story go; it was a part of me; it shaped who I am today; I do what I do because of that story!

Training is good to receive; however, when conveying a message such as why you should not hold onto your story, especially while building a business around it, is imperative for the student to understand one piece that will change everything.

I hadn’t heard that lesson, or completely missed it if it was presented at all.

Here’s what must be let go: the closeness of the events that ripped your heart out.

Once I distanced myself from feeling the emotional ties that which bound me to the situation, I was better able to discuss the reasons why I wanted to help women succeed after losing a job, or their kids went on to college, or they simply desired a change.

Once I processed the pain, the anger, the loss experienced due to the event, I could stand back and take a really good look—not unlike an out-of-body experience—and see where I needed to go with the business, how to make it all come together.

Do the emotions still arise and take me back to that time? Of course; and it’s expected, and also welcomed. The time remains fresh enough so I can create programs for my clientele to continually help them process their emotions and pain. I am now able to tell my story because I’ve let the pain of the story go.

Letting go takes time and work; it is not an overnight or two- or three-day fix. But if you can go deep within and fully process the hurt, anger, and pain, your story becomes a powerful vehicle to take those you were meant to serve on a journey to heal their wounds.

It’s all about the release and getting free of the chains that bind us.

Before you tell your story, let your story go.

If the words struck a nerve, I’d love to hear how in the comments below. If you feel others may benefit from this post, please share via the social media buttons below.

To your success,



Courageous Women Publications

Another year, another vision. The other day I asked why, as I got more clear in my business plan and added more detail, the vision was growing like a snowball rolling down the hill.

Anyone who—and it may be you, too—has been in this same situation knows this scenario is exactly what happens when you get clear on what you want and love to do.

Now, my Communication Solution page has been up for nearly the entire year of 2014; yet, it was under my personal name. As more collaborators (you may call them clients) came to me, the more the idea came forward of actually naming the writing and publishing piece of my business.

Okay. No big deal. Right? At some point I would take time to think about a name.

But always seemed to put the entitlement on the back burner. Until one day in the shower…..

Yep. You guessed it! It was like a lightning bolt had shot through my body! Good thing I hadn’t fully soaped up yet, or I would have been on the shower floor!

The name given to house this part of my business makes perfect sense. The collaborators (all women thus far) who I’ve helped publish, no matter the task, have all been sent with a message of their own to share through the written word—and that doesn’t come without a bit of courage behind it (she said sarcastically)!

I will also share with you there has been a gentleman that approached me to publish his book, but he didn’t pan out. Sad to say. But that doesn’t mean another one won’t come along and allow me to help him spread his wisdom through the written word!

As I shared the banner design, I had been asked why the big letter “C”? It’s the beginning of the word “courage” and it’s bigger and bolder than the rest just for that very reason.

The background is like parchment, where valuable written words are stored.

The globe signifies all are welcomed. The line under “Women” may seem to be an underline, but it is actually the latitudinal line of the equator on the globe, encompassing all women from around the world.

Some say the banner gives them a traditional old-world feel; yet, also emits and evokes strength and hope of the future.

“Open up to the world, and the world opens up to you.”

It most certainly does. Ahhhhhh.

The website is not quite ready, but please visit the Facebook Page and, while you’re there, I’d love it if you’d “Like” it.

It’s going to be a great and busy time this coming year. This business component will not just be about launching new authors, but will also be about self-discovery, self-empowerment, and so much more!

I am thrilled, honored, and humbled to be on this journey, and to be the one called upon to deliver inspiration and encouragement throughout this wonderful world in which we live.

To your success,